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Stranger Care: A Memoir of Loving What Isn’t Ours

Top of the pile

79

/100

I Index Overall Rating

Readers

82/100

Critics

77/100

Scholars

N/A

Author:

Sarah Sentilles

Publisher:

Random House

Date:

May 4, 2021

After their decision not to have a biological child, Sarah Sentilles and her husband, Eric, decide to adopt via the foster care system. Despite knowing that the system's goal is the child's reunification with the birth family, Sarah opens their home to a flurry of social workers who question them, evaluate them, and ultimately prepare them to welcome a child into their lives--even if it means most likely having to give the child back.

What The Reviewers Say

Anna Nordberg,
The San Francisco Chronicle
... Sentilles shines a light — or beams a heat lamp — on all the ways there are to love, be a parent and experience loss.
Priscilla Kipp,
BookPage
Not far into [Sentilles's] heart-searing memoir, Stranger Care: A Memoir of Loving What Isn’t Ours, the complications begin.
Naomi Schaefer Riley,
The New York Time Book Review
... gut-wrenching.
Annie Bostrom,
Booklist
With nimble prose spanning many brief, titled chapters, Sentilles shares the practical, transcendent, and disheartening realities of fostering, alongside evocative descriptions of various forms of stranger care in nature, among trees, birds, and whales.