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This American Ex-Wife: How I Ended My Marriage and Started My Life

Bottom of the pile

24

/100

I Index Overall Rating

Readers

46/100

Critics

2/100

Scholars

N/A

Author:

Lyz Lenz

Publisher:

Crown

Date:

February 20, 2024

Studies show that nearly 70 percent of divorces are initiated by women—women who are tired, fed up, exhausted, and unhappy. Lyz is one such woman whose life fell apart after she reached a breaking point in her twelve-year marriage. In this exuberant and unapologetic book, Lyz Lenz is flipping the script on that narrative and preaching the good gospel of the power of divorce.

What The Reviewers Say

Judith Newman,
The New York Times Book Review
A clever, well-argued and thoroughly joyless examination of what Lenz calls the 'commonplace horror' of marriage.
Lily Meyer,
The Atlantic
A light mix of history and social commentary that leans heavily on personal storytelling without quite turning into memoir. Common though it is, this hybrid form is tough to pull off. It can tempt writers to map their own experiences too neatly onto collective ones while also undermining the specificity and perspective that a good memoir needs. This American Ex-Wife suffers from both of these problems. Lenz’s impulse to generalize is so strong that at times her work whiffs of self-help.
Jessica Ferri,
The Washington Post
While it might be tempting to shrug off Lenz’s argument because of her unlucky (and that’s a nice word for it) coupling, the data here is persuasive.
Laura Kipnis,
The New Republic
A raw, angry, rabble-rousing book.